Losing someone you love is the most heart-wrenching thing you might face in your life. Knowing that you won’t be able to hold hands with them anymore, or you won’t be able to talk to them can make you feel desperate and lonely. However, death is a natural phenomenon and there is nothing we can do about it. What we can do is hold ourselves strong and get ready to move on with life.
The grieving period is a must after you lose someone, however, it should not be prolonged. Once you are done with the funeral arranging part, and a heartwarming wake, you should start to bring yourself back to life. Here are some tips to help you overcome grievance and move on with life.
1. Cry Your Feelings Out For Once
When you lose someone, do not hold back your feelings. Psychologists believe that if we hold back our feelings and not let them out properly, these feelings will eventually come out at the wrong time, at the wrong place. Therefore, if you are grieving and you do not want to show your emotions to the world, close your plantation shutters and cry your heart out.
Crying will make you feel light. If you don’t do that, you might start building anger that will ruin your life later on. Therefore, make sure you let your emotions out and be done with it.
2. Talk To Someone
Another great way of getting past the grievance is to talk to someone. If you are comfortable with your close family or a friend, and you know you can trust them with your emotions, talk to them. Let them know how you are feeling. Do not expect others to understand your feelings, saying everything out loud will make you aware of yourself. Even if others are not able to help you with the feelings, being listened to might be enough for you.
If you are not comfortable with telling your feelings to someone you know, talk to a stranger. Get an appointment with a therapist and tell them about how you are feeling. If you keep your emotions bottled up for too long, it might affect your mental health.
3. Focus On What You Have
The one who is gone is gone. You can do nothing to bring them back. The ones you are left with, need you. Therefore, try to focus more on the present and your future. If you lost your spouse, you have children to look after. They need their parents. So make sure you are not involved in yourself and looking after the kids. They have lost a parent. It must be a difficult time for them too.
If you do not have kids or any family member to look after, think about your job and the life you had before the incident. Focusing on the present can help you overcome the grievance period more easily.